Friday, November 20, 2009

Loving You Both Dearly

Dear Mom and Dad,

I love you both for the support you have given me over the years. It has been a long journey, but we are about to the end of it. Things will continue to improve over the next several months and I don't want you to forget the relationship we had while I was living at home.

I have to say in all honesty that my parents have been my best friends over the last eight years. In some ways, I don't want to leave home, but I'm ready to spread my wings like an young eagle about to leave its nest.Now I want to share something with you that might make you a little uncomfortable.

When I was a child, about the age to be baptized (eight years or so) I was sexually molested. I do not know who molested me, but I have do doubt that the molestation occurred. I have had sexually difficulties all of my life as a result of this experience and some others. I have decided after some deliberation that I am a gay man. I have romantic feelings for both men and women. I have no regrets about my feelings of sexual attraction and will have multiple sex partners for the rest of my life. Now I know that your religion views my sentiments as vile and apostate. Let me say that my feelings toward men and women are the most normal thing in the world for me, even if I had parents who raised me to thinks of gays and lesbians as abnormal sinners. If there is a god and my life has some intended purpose, I believe it is teach people how to love each other no matter their shape, gender, size, creed, nationality, skin color, or sexual preference. Someday I will come out of the closet, the one that I have been in for decades; I hope that you will support me in this endeavor when it occurs. I'm ready to move forward into the next stage of my life. It will be an adventure as my entire life has been so far.

I hope that I can make a difference in this world of ours.

Yours forever (especially Mom's),

(Name withheld)